The Boy with no Gaydar
The boy with no gaydar arrives late to church with his family.
He does not sit with them,
sliding instead into the second to last row,
Where he sits between Willa
and Peggy, his adopted aunts.
These ladies are frends,
roommates, in their 50’s, from the south.
Their country home has a huge
barn, home to Peggy’s grand woodshop.
Beside him, Peggy croons
hymns in a warbly low tenor.
The boy with no gaydar
watches too much after-school television.
His favorites are the funny
ones, with those hilarious celebrity guests.
On Hollywood Squares, Jim J
Bullock wears outrageous pastel shirts and acts like a silly goof.
Charles Nelson Reily on Match
game is fabulously bizarre. He wears huge
glasses and bright ascots.
The boy admires both men, yet
pities them for allowing their wives to select their wardrobes.
Both speak with peculiar
enunciation, which shows that they are both very cultured.
The boy with no gaydar spends
Sunday afternoons at the home of his adopted aunties.
He believes he has explored
the whole building,, but has yet to find the third bedroom.
Peggy’s son, Jim, occupies
one of them.
Peggy says the other is her
room.
But when he asks Willa, she
claims the second room is her own.
He can never figure out which
of them is teasing him,
Or where the door to that third
bedroom might be.
The boy with no gaydar is
called “faggot” by the big kids
Who sit in the back of the
school bus.
The first time he uses the
word against another child
He doesn’t know what it
means.
The big kids tell them it
means, “you’re a butt-fucker.”
This notion is both hurtful and confusing.
The second time he calls
another child “faggot,” he knows.
The boy with no gaydar gets
hand-me-downs from Peggy’s son, Jim.
Jim has the most stylish
mullet of anyone he knows
And is in high school.
And is on the math team.
Jim takes the boy’s Swedish
exchange student to the prom.
The boy with no gaydar tries
to grow his own stylish mullet.
Jim lets the boy hang out
with him every Sunday afternoon
But only because Peggy makes
him.
The boy with no gaydar
expands his vocabulary on the school bus.
He sits in the back now.
Nicknames a younger girl “it”
And another boy “homo”
He is kicked off the bus for
a week.
It does not change this
choice of words.
He knows these insults mean
power
The back of the bus means
power
This is what the big kids do.
The boy with no gaydar begins
high school.
Jim is in college and has
moved away.
Willa and Peggy give him a
gold chain for Christmas.
Gold chains are what cool
kids with mullets wear in high school.
His father is upset, calls it
a necklace,
Forbids him to wear it.
Doesn’t want his son turning
into a girl.
The boy with no gaydar learns
in high school
To say words like “gay” in
hushed tones
And that nobody says “faggot”
anymore.
There are whispers about the
boys on the color guard
Rumors about one of them and
a pepperoni
The boy wonders how that kind
of thing is even possible.
He assumes it isn’t
true. That boy goes to the Catholic
church.
How could he be both gay and
Catholic?
The priests would never allow
such a thing.
The boy with no gaydar makes
a boomerang in Peggy’s woodshop.
He asks her, now that Jim is
at college and
living with his father in the
summers, if
She thinks she will date
again and marry another man.
Peggy’s pause is long and
thoughtful.
Her answer, measured and
certain.
“Well, I’m pretty sure I’m
happy where I’m at right now.”
He doesn’t believe her. He thinks she will be alone.
The boy with no gaydar
watches in wonder
The first time he sees two
girls kissing.
They are sitting on the
floor, outside the band room,
closing their eyes and using
their tongues.
They are his friends, and
when he hears a passerby
joking, “Lez-be friends”
It bothers him
In a way it has never
bothered him before.
The boy with no Gaydar no
longer visits his adopted aunties.
They come to the house,
sometimes, on holidays.
Peggy’s mother in Florida is dying.
She is not around as much.
Willa is starting to show
signs of early senility.
The boy with no gaydar and
his friends are treated
To a concert of piano and
belted-out showtunes
Each morning in the school
band room
by David,
a fair-skinned boy who
performs in the theater.
David can sing like Ethyl
Merman and enunciates his words just so.
It means he has culture, just
like those Hollywood stars on TV.
There are always girls around
David,
But David is aloof, never accepting their advances.
The boy with no gaydar goes
to college.
He cuts off the mullet,
because they are no longer cool.
In college, being gay is no
longer scandalous fodder for rumor-mills.
Half the girls claim to be
“bi”
Perhaps because it’s true
Perhaps because it’s trendy
to say so.
The boy with no gaydar goes
to a new church
He still arrives late, but he
sits with his parents.
There’s a guy with a Flock of
Seagulls hairstyle.
They always go to the same
shows, recognize each other,
Give each other a nod between
sets.
For some reason, they never
really talk.
In college there are clubs
for just about everything
The guy with Flock of
Seagulls hair is in the club for gays.
He no longer shows up at
church.
The boy with no gaydar makes
the connection for the first time
At the next show he asks,
“Where’ve you been?”
The guy with Flock of
Seagulls hair shakes his head.
“It’s too hard to be there,”
he says
“Everyone knows. I see how they look at me,”
“The way they look at
my parents.”
“I see the way my parents
look at me and I - Ican’t.”
The boy with no gaydar wishes
he had been a friend sooner.
That he had chosen to sit in
a different row
That the Faithful would be
quicker to love than to judge
That certain words had never
escaped his lips
That the guy with Flock of
Seagulls hair would get a haircut
Because maybe that was why
they looked at him that way.
Maybe they
really didn’t know.